Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Can You Handle Rejection Well?

I was asked this question a few days ago by a professor I really admire at the law school during a conversation we were having about jobs.

Me: I'm thinking about applying for this job but they require you to be in the top x% of my class. What do you think my chances are of even getting an interview?

Professor: Well, how close are you to the top x%?

Me: Um...not. But I have really great practical, real-world experiences (explain real world experience to him at this point) that I think help me stand out in other ways.

Professor: Well, can you handle rejection well?

What? Can I handle rejection well? I mean, of course I laughingly responded yes. I felt like telling him, well I've made it to my last year in law school, so apparently I can. But what kind of question/answer is that?  What does that even mean? Does anyone ever handle rejection "well?" I mean, I'm pretty sure that even the most successful person, when confronted with rejection, isn't like:


And besides that, I guess I was hoping more for a "oh man Katie you're an excellent candidate. I would think you have a great chance of getting an interview. In fact, let me just call them and tell them to go ahead and hire you with a $30,000 signing bonus and a new car." Well...maybe not all of that. The signing bonus and car are negotiable. But anyways, I guess that I was able to handle my professor's semi-rejection "well?" I mean, nervous/appalled laughter is one way of doing it...

Anyways, rejection is a sad, but necessary part of life. And I think the more you get rejected, the better you learn how to outwardly handle it "well" by smiling politely as you're inwardly flipping them the bird.

So. Moral of this story I'm going to apply for that job and pray they can see past the grade thing to how awesome of a human being I am. As they say, I have more of a chance of getting the job if I apply, than if I don't.

 Fingers crossed that I'm the one on the left

Friday, August 24, 2012

What...a Whirlwind

So things have been crazy around here the past couple of weeks and, believe it or not, all good crazy. So here is a mashup of all of life's little highlights.

  • I went on an awesome vacation with one of my best friends and got to see many beautiful of this state that I had never seen before and do many things that I had never done before like. For example:
    • Austin, South Congress, 6th Street, Uchi 

    • Port O'Connor, Texas (sorry no pictures of me in a swimsuit) but it was awesome. There were dolphins y'all.
    • Picosa Ranch (about 45min from San Antonio). Described as "the ultimate solution for a remote getaway" and "a true luxury experience"and man, it did not disappoint. The staff, accommodations, food, experience was so phenomenal. The best I can describe it is a vacation where you can plan your own vacation. You could hunt, shoot guns, go on a safari to see all of the animals on their 3,000-acre property, fish, ride horses, swim, drink, eat, drink, eat, swim, drink and eat. But seriously :) It was awesome and I would suggest anyone and everyone to make it a point to go. But while we were there, I did a few things I had never done before...such as
    • go on a safari

      shoot a 20-gauge Baretta Shotgun at some Skeet

      Shoot a 9mm 

      AK-47 bullets

      Shoot an AK-47

      Shoot an AR-15

      And see some meese elk

      As Kalin said, I went from "no guns, to all the guns." It was so. awesome. 

  • So after getting back from vacation, we all hit the ground running as our 3L (read "last year of law school HOLLA!") year began. Thank the Lord, Joseph, Mary and baby Jesus. I look at the first-year students and just feel terrible for them/really thankful that's not me haha. I know 3L year will have it's own problems (finding a job, taking the bar etc) but it's such a fun, new exciting chapter that we are all starting and I'm looking forward to it!!
  • On the topic of school, I finally got my class ring in!!!! 6 years in the making people.
  • I would've posted a picture of it on my hand but my fingers are extremely un-photoenic.
  • I got my second A of law school. I know, I know, bragging about grades but seriously, an A in law school (for me) is like finding a four-leaf clover on top of a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow while a leprechaun rides a unicorn around. So I feel like when this rare occasion/scene happens, I like to share it :)
  • Lastly, I got to be a real lawyer today. As part of my job with Legal Aid of NorthWest Texas, I had a client who wanted to change her last name. Today, I represented her (by myself) in court and petitioned the Court (by myself) to change her last name, which he did! She walked out with a new last name, and I walked out having won my first case :) It's a good day y'all.

Sorry I know that was a lot but a lot has been going on. If you're heading back to school/already started, hope your year has started off lovely. 

Have a great Friday loves. 

Friday, August 3, 2012

My Two Cents...For What It's Worth

So. I'm going to tackle Chick-Fil-A, Christianity, social matters, and maybe a little politics. Just because it sounds like fun. You have been warned. Stop reading now if you want to.

I am a Christian and I also believe in gay marriage.

How is this possible? How can I believe what the Bible says and still think that gay marriage is OK? That sinning is OK? I believe this is possible because I can't imagine God not wanting His children to be happy. I can't honestly believe, in my heart, that God would create His children, in His image, and create them to love someone of the same sex, and then condemn them. All sins are the same in God's eyes: lying is the same as murder is the same as coveting is the same as marrying someone of the same sex. God created us with the power to love others, and honestly, I think God has become a little more "hip" in His older age and has done what a lot of people have done nowadays. He has come to view people marrying those of the same sex not as "immoral" but as just another expression of love.

OK so moving on. As strongly as I believe that everyone should be allowed to get married, I also understand that there are people who don't believe that for whatever reason. I don't agree with that view, but I'm not going to bash you and/or judge you. That's one of the most beautiful/awful things about this country, that people are allowed to say things (like our soldiers are dying because of gay people) and do things (like burn our flag), all in the name of free speech. You are allowed to believe what you believe, and I'm not going to judge you for it, just like you shouldn't judge those who believe different from you. It's a different view on life. The end.

Chick-Fil-A. While you have tasty food, and I am OK with every company having their own beliefs and values, I am NOT OK with that company taking my money and using it to prevent people from getting married. Let me be clear-- you can have whatever belief system you want as a person and as a company, and if that was all this was, I would still eat at Chick-Fil-A, but the fact that the president of the company has donated millions of dollars to lobbyist groups, including Focus on the Family, a group advocating "traditional marriage," I do not want to directly or indirectly support that cause with my money.  So, I love you, but I hate what giving my money to you would mean. I won't miss your shakes and waffle fries that much. So before you go eat at Chick-Fil-A, please think about where your money could go and if you're OK with what you are supporting.

Politics. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs, but your beliefs should not impose on others' rights.

If only it were that simple. I don't understand why it can't be. Let everyone have the right to do whatever they want to do, and if you don't agree, don't do it. But it shouldn't be the law. It shouldn't be written in any Constitution, state or federal. Our Declaration of Independence says that all men are created equal; where does it say that "marriage is between a man and a woman?" The Bible. And that's why we have separation of church and state.

So, let's just have a law that enables equality. Like I posted earlier, don't like gay marriage, don't like abortion, don't like sex before marriage, awesome. That's fine. Don't do it. Just let it be your belief, but don't let your beliefs disable others from having the same rights and freedoms that you have. Let's try having a little empathy, America. How would you feel if you couldn't marry the person you loved?  How would you feel if you were considered a second-class citizen? How would you feel if you were discriminated against because of the way you were born? How about we focus on how to not have a terrible economy? Or maybe improving our unemployment rate so that we can get back to work? Or finding a cure for Alzheimer's or cancer or Parkinson's? How about we focus on more important stuff and just let people be. Why is that so hard?

Marriage inequality is the "black/white segregation" of our generation. We look back at slavery and segregation and are appalled by what our ancestors thought and did. That is how our kids and grandkids will be with us. There will be a day when our children will not know marriage inequality. And they will look back on this time with the same shock we have when we look back on slavery. It is the same concept, discriminating against someone because of how they were born, because of something they can't help, because of who they are. It is treating someone as a second-class citizen because they're gay, just as we treated African Americans as second-class citizens because of their skin. I cannot believe, in the 21st century, when we have come so far in so many areas, that we still have so far to go.

It breaks my heart to know there are people out there who can't marry the person they love. It breaks my heart that people are denied a family with the person they love. But we will keep fighting, and one day, we will all be able to marry who we love.

Stay strong and keep fighting.